It is well known that pursuing a divorce can be a difficult and frustrating process. For some however, even contemplating a divorce may be emotionally draining and heart-wrenching.

Making the decision to divorce can be an exceedingly brave one. It takes a certain amount of courage to acknowledge that a valued relationship must be set aside to make way for other possibilities. Failing to acknowledge this reality often leads to more heartbreak and drama than walking away does. As you are contemplating whether or not to move on from your marriage, it is important to keep several things in mind.

It is certainly possible that divorce is the best choice to make, even when you love your spouse deeply. The bond between married individuals is often strikingly complex. Love is only one element of what ties you together. Consider whether the "whys" inspiring your potential divorce are important enough reasons to walk away, before weighing how heavily the element of love should bear on your ultimate decision.

Couples often believe that if only they cared for and about each other more, the relationship would heal and grow. In many situations, the spirit of this sentiment is likely true. However, if the struggle to make your relationship fit and work produces nothing but strain, drama or deceit, it may be time to work towards a different future. If you cannot weather most of the storms in love with grace and dignity, your approach will likely hurt you in the end.

Only you can know whether it is time to fight for your marriage or gracefully set it aside. Whatever you decide, it is important to contemplate which outcome will ultimately produce the most happy and peaceful life in the end.

Source: The Huffington Post, "When Love Isn't Enough: 3 Rules for a Drama Free Divorce," Christine Arylo, Feb. 7, 2012